I’ve been feeling super confused lately about my partner’s behavior. Like, he does nice stuff—like sharing food almost every day—but it feels like that’s all he thinks a relationship needs. IDK, it’s like he thinks small caring gestures are enough, but I’m realizing I need more than that. Anyone else feel like small acts of kindness just don’t cut it sometimes?
Yeah, totally get what you mean. It’s like they think those little things make up for deeper stuff. Have you talked to him about it?
Jess said:
Yeah, totally get what you mean. It’s like they think those little things make up for deeper stuff. Have you talked to him about it?
I haven’t really sat down to have a big convo yet. I just feel like he doesn’t see it as a problem, you know?
Jess said:
Yeah, totally get what you mean. It’s like they think those little things make up for deeper stuff. Have you talked to him about it?
Sometimes they just don’t realize it’s an issue. Maybe try explaining why it’s not enough for you?
I used to feel like that too… My ex would do sweet little things but never actually put in effort where it mattered. I just kept getting more frustrated.
Maddox said:
I used to feel like that too… My ex would do sweet little things but never actually put in effort where it mattered. I just kept getting more frustrated.
Exactly! It’s like I was grateful at first, but now it feels like he’s just going through the motions. Ugh.
Maybe he just doesn’t know what you’re looking for. Not everyone gets that gestures alone aren’t enough.
Jaden said:
Maybe he just doesn’t know what you’re looking for. Not everyone gets that gestures alone aren’t enough.
True. Sometimes people think they’re doing enough because no one’s told them otherwise.
Jaden said:
Maybe he just doesn’t know what you’re looking for. Not everyone gets that gestures alone aren’t enough.
I guess I need to figure out how to bring it up without sounding ungrateful…
Honestly, communication is everything. Maybe he just doesn’t know how much it bothers you. Try giving him a chance to understand how you feel.
Bryn said:
Honestly, communication is everything. Maybe he just doesn’t know how much it bothers you. Try giving him a chance to understand how you feel.
Exactly. Sometimes people don’t realize they’re not meeting your needs unless you tell them straight up.
What’s IDK mean? I keep seeing it everywhere, lol.
Tatum said:
What’s IDK mean? I keep seeing it everywhere, lol.
Oh, it just means ‘I don’t know’.
Tatum said:
What’s IDK mean? I keep seeing it everywhere, lol.
Ahh, got it! Thanks .