Court ordered days... is her mom violating them?

Family Law Forum
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Question folks, I have a court order that gives me Friday, Saturday, and Sunday every other week. The week I don’t have her, I only get her on Friday. It’s becoming a problem because on Saturdays and Sundays, my kid doesn’t want to come with me. Her mom makes plans and my daughter is excited to go with her instead. Is that okay for her to do or is she violating my court days? I have video proof where my kid says she’s going to her cousin’s house and doesn’t want to come with me. I’ve filled out court documents to ask for more time and to speak to a judge about this. Is there a chance I could get 50/50 custody?

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Both parents are supposed to encourage the child to go with the other parent. They can’t say to a child they don’t have to go if they don’t want to. If she refuses, maybe involve the police. You’re responsible for your parenting time.

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@Flippa
That sounds tough… but if the mom isn’t letting her go, isn’t that a big issue?

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@Flippa
Exactly! You should definitely stick to your scheduled time and let your child know that it’s important.

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It seems like there might be some parental alienation happening here. Have you talked to your child’s therapist about it?

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Mason said:
It seems like there might be some parental alienation happening here. Have you talked to your child’s therapist about it?

I haven’t yet, but that’s a good idea. I’ll ask them next time.

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This isn’t contempt… unfortunately, she’s not legally in the wrong unless she’s actively stopping you from seeing your daughter.

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Kola said:
This isn’t contempt… unfortunately, she’s not legally in the wrong unless she’s actively stopping you from seeing your daughter.

So I can’t really do anything unless she outright refuses to let me see her?

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It’s frustrating, but unless she’s preventing the visit, she’s not breaking any laws. Have you tried discussing this with her?

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Kim said:
It’s frustrating, but unless she’s preventing the visit, she’s not breaking any laws. Have you tried discussing this with her?

I’ve tried, but she just ignores me and tells my daughter she doesn’t have to go. It’s really tough.

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You might have to tolerate your kid being upset sometimes, but it’s better than not having her in your life at all.

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Harper said:
You might have to tolerate your kid being upset sometimes, but it’s better than not having her in your life at all.

I get that, but I just don’t want to make her feel like she’s being forced… that’s the last thing I want.