So, I just found out my wife is cheating and I’m currently on active duty. I really don’t know what to do next. I’m not sure if I should start divorce proceedings or if I should handle this differently. Any advice from people who’ve been through something similar or just have some insight would be helpful.
Man, I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I’m not in the military, but I’ve been through a similar situation. It really depends on what you want to do, but starting divorce proceedings might be the first step if you’re ready to move on. It’s definitely a tough spot to be in though.
@Morgan
Yeah, I agree. And since you’re in the military, don’t forget about the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act (SCRA), it might give you some protection if you need to delay things. Definitely talk to a lawyer to get all the details.
@Morgan
Also, if you’re considering divorce and the adultery impacts things, some states allow you to file for fault-based divorce. It can affect things like alimony or how property gets divided.
If it’s affecting your career or personal life that much, you could report it under the UCMJ, especially if it involves other military personnel. It could lead to an investigation depending on how it impacts morale or performance.
@Chase
Oh, didn’t know that could happen. Reporting it might feel like a big step, but I guess if it’s affecting your career, you should do what’s best for you in the long run.
Don’t forget about the financial side of things too, like your shared finances or any dependent support if you have kids. It can get tricky with military benefits like BAH as well, so make sure to take that into account.
@Oli
Yeah, good point. I didn’t think about how it could affect benefits or finances. I’d recommend talking to someone about that too. Divorce and custody can get complicated, especially when it involves military benefits.
Just wanted to say hang in there. It’s a lot to process. There are options for you, so take it one step at a time. Let me know if you want to chat more about it.
Marlow said:
Just wanted to say hang in there. It’s a lot to process. There are options for you, so take it one step at a time. Let me know if you want to chat more about it.
Thanks for saying that. It really is overwhelming, especially being on active duty. I’ll definitely take things slow and figure out my next move.
I know it’s not easy, but whatever you decide, take care of yourself first. This is a tough situation, but there’s help available. Just make sure you’re not rushed into anything.
Blake said:
I know it’s not easy, but whatever you decide, take care of yourself first. This is a tough situation, but there’s help available. Just make sure you’re not rushed into anything.
Agreed, don’t rush into any decisions. Make sure you have all the facts and support you need before moving forward.