If a Doctor suspected your spouse had a Neurological illness, what would you do? What steps would help? (Possibly separation, kids involved)

If there was an undiagnosed neurological illness, such as memory issues, muscle pain, chronic fatigue, and sleep problems. Possibly MS, as suggested by her doctor over a year ago.

Nuri said:

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Nuri said:

Dumb.

Sorry. My wife denies being sick and wants separation. I’m getting blamed for the health problem. The kids’ mom believes she is fine. My kids are stressed out since she has full custody.

From your post history, the fact that she is divorcing you and you are only bringing up neglect now won’t help much unless there’s more to it. For example, if your son’s nails are bad and you live together, why aren’t you taking care of them? A judge won’t deny her custody based on his nails, especially since you both live together. It seems like you think it’s solely her fault. Reading your posts makes me wonder if she used to handle most of the household and childcare tasks but stopped, while you believe it’s due to her being sick.

@Zen
I had been taking care of it. The kids were sick for 40 days from school.

Axel said:
@Zen
I had been taking care of it. The kids were sick for 40 days from school.

Okay, and you couldn’t take them to school? Everything happening while you live together is a shared responsibility.

@Zen
I did. The kids had dizziness with COVID.

Axel said:
@Zen
I did. The kids had dizziness with COVID.

Huh? Were the kids actually sick for 40 days? Why would a court say it’s a problem solely caused by your wife? You live together, so past issues are on both of you.

@Zen
You make no sense.

Axel said:
@Zen
You make no sense.

You don’t like what I’m saying because you’re attached to the idea that your wife is solely responsible for everything, and you have no joint responsibility. It sounds like the only reason she wants a divorce is due to the undiagnosed MS.

@Zen
Read about what MS does to your brain.

Axel said:
@Zen
I did. The kids had dizziness with COVID.

For 40 days?!

It seems you’re hoping that a diagnosis like this would somehow mean you get sole custody, but that’s not how it works. Unless she is profoundly disabled right now, she will likely retain at least 50/50 custody. You can’t take custody based on the possibility of future disability.

@Cody
I’m thinking it’s mild to moderate MS. She is okay, but she doesn’t know what’s going on. No doctor, no meds.

@Cody
I just want to see her get treatment.

Nuri said:

Your post was removed for being overly critical of someone’s actions. Comments about morality are not welcome here.

Okay, OP. I looked through your post history. It’s unclear whether you’re staying with your wife or divorcing her because both paths are very different.

Palmer said:
Okay, OP. I looked through your post history. It’s unclear whether you’re staying with your wife or divorcing her because both paths are very different.

It seems she is divorcing him.