I’m 17F and have been living between homes since sophomore year. My relationship with my mom has been toxic since I was 8. She constantly tells me I’m ungrateful and makes these awful threats about college. This morning, we argued, and she said I can only live with my dad permanently after I graduate high school. But I thought the law says I can choose where to live when I turn 18. I can’t take living with her anymore—I feel so much better at my dad’s house. I’ve even been losing hair from the stress, and she mocks me for it. I feel trapped and don’t know what to do. Any advice?
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s tough, but when you turn 18, you do have more options for where to live.
It’s really important to talk to someone about this. Have you considered reaching out to a counselor or a trusted adult?
Hale said:
It’s really important to talk to someone about this. Have you considered reaching out to a counselor or a trusted adult?
I’ve thought about it, but it’s hard to know who to trust.
You should definitely look into legal advice. There may be ways to address your situation sooner than waiting until you’re 18.
Clara said:
You should definitely look into legal advice. There may be ways to address your situation sooner than waiting until you’re 18.
Yeah, I just feel like everything takes so long.
Document everything your mom says and does. If it gets really bad, you might be able to get help from the courts.
Cody said:
Document everything your mom says and does. If it gets really bad, you might be able to get help from the courts.
That makes sense. I just want to feel safe and happy.
You’re not alone in this. Many people go through similar situations. Just hang in there until you can make that change!