I have a protective order against my child’s father after fleeing to another state due to domestic violence. He hasn’t been served yet, and it’s been 2 months. He’s been harassing me via phone and has called welfare checks to my parents’ house. I want to know if blocking FaceTime with him will negatively impact custody. I’ve been giving updates, but he demands to see our daughter at random hours, often when he’s drunk. I feel uncomfortable allowing FaceTime given the circumstances. Will not letting him FaceTime be seen as parental alienation? I just want to protect my daughter until we have a court order for communication.
You have a protective order, which usually includes no contact provisions. It shouldn’t look bad on you if you block FaceTime; it’s about your safety.
If there’s no custody plan that includes communication, you won’t be in contempt. Document everything and speak with a lawyer about communication through a court-approved app.
He can’t serve you if he doesn’t know where you are. Protect your safety first and foremost.
When the time comes, explain that you didn’t feel comfortable with FaceTime due to his behavior. Keeping records will help when discussing custody.
Focus on building a loving environment for your child. Kids can see through manipulation, and with time, they will understand who truly cares for them.