What can you do when the dependency court ignores the law and your rights?

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

It feels like some information might be missing here. Why would CPS or the court give you an ultimatum to leave your partner or lose visitation? Courts don’t usually make decisions like that unless they have a serious concern that your partner is a threat to the child.

Hadi said:
It feels like some information might be missing here. Why would CPS or the court give you an ultimatum to leave your partner or lose visitation? Courts don’t usually make decisions like that unless they have a serious concern that your partner is a threat to the child.

The court’s dependency orders didn’t mention anything about my partner. In fact, the orders technically allowed me more time with my child, but due to the therapist’s schedule, I couldn’t take full advantage of it. However, the court has now reduced my visitation time. What’s confusing is that the therapist clearly said I’m not a risk to my child, yet the court’s decision remains unchanged.

My partner isn’t even mentioned in the dependency orders, so I’m not sure why the judge keeps pushing this issue. It feels contradictory. Either the judge trusts the therapist’s evaluation, which he himself ordered, or he doesn’t. If he didn’t trust the therapist, I don’t think I would even have supervised visits.

The court seems to be inferring that my partner is a threat because of the sustained false allegations. Even though we have new evidence of parental alienation, the judge acts like the case is closed and settled. It’s frustrating because the claims aren’t true, and I don’t know how to move forward.

Zeke said:

Hadi said:
It feels like some information might be missing here. Why would CPS or the court give you an ultimatum to leave your partner or lose visitation? Courts don’t usually make decisions like that unless they have a serious concern that your partner is a threat to the child.

The court’s dependency orders didn’t mention anything about my partner. In fact, the orders technically allowed me more time with my child, but due to the therapist’s schedule, I couldn’t take full advantage of it. However, the court has now reduced my visitation time. What’s confusing is that the therapist clearly said I’m not a risk to my child, yet the court’s decision remains unchanged.

My partner isn’t even mentioned in the dependency orders, so I’m not sure why the judge keeps pushing this issue. It feels contradictory. Either the judge trusts the therapist’s evaluation, which he himself ordered, or he doesn’t. If he didn’t trust the therapist, I don’t think I would even have supervised visits.

The court seems to be inferring that my partner is a threat because of the sustained false allegations. Even though we have new evidence of parental alienation, the judge acts like the case is closed and settled. It’s frustrating because the claims aren’t true, and I don’t know how to move forward.

Did the judge directly tell you to leave your partner? Did your lawyer go over your case with the judge before the trial? I’m just trying to understand why the judge would care about your partner unless there’s some concern that they could be harmful to your child. Does your partner have any sort of criminal record? Did you or your partner ever use drugs? Courts don’t typically get involved in a parent’s relationships unless there’s a clear danger to the child.

Hadi said:

Zeke said:
Hadi said:
It feels like some information might be missing here. Why would CPS or the court give you an ultimatum to leave your partner or lose visitation? Courts don’t usually make decisions like that unless they have a serious concern that your partner is a threat to the child.

The court’s dependency orders didn’t mention anything about my partner. In fact, the orders technically allowed me more time with my child, but due to the therapist’s schedule, I couldn’t take full advantage of it. However, the court has now reduced my visitation time. What’s confusing is that the therapist clearly said I’m not a risk to my child, yet the court’s decision remains unchanged.

My partner isn’t even mentioned in the dependency orders, so I’m not sure why the judge keeps pushing this issue. It feels contradictory. Either the judge trusts the therapist’s evaluation, which he himself ordered, or he doesn’t. If he didn’t trust the therapist, I don’t think I would even have supervised visits.

The court seems to be inferring that my partner is a threat because of the sustained false allegations. Even though we have new evidence of parental alienation, the judge acts like the case is closed and settled. It’s frustrating because the claims aren’t true, and I don’t know how to move forward.

Did the judge directly tell you to leave your partner? Did your lawyer go over your case with the judge before the trial? I’m just trying to understand why the judge would care about your partner unless there’s some concern that they could be harmful to your child. Does your partner have any sort of criminal record? Did you or your partner ever use drugs? Courts don’t typically get involved in a parent’s relationships unless there’s a clear danger to the child.

No, the judge didn’t tell me directly to leave my partner. The family court judge mentioned my relationship as a concern, but there’s no official order saying I have to end it. There also haven’t been any pre-trial discussions about it between my lawyer and the judge that I’m aware of.

As for drugs, neither my partner nor I have any history with drugs, and my partner doesn’t have a criminal record. So, there’s no reason for the court to see them as a danger.

The claims were about my partner harming my child, but my child testified that he lied to the police and that there was no abuse. Still, my lawyer failed to bring in key evidence to support my side, leaving me in a tough spot. I think the dependency court’s decision to sustain the allegations is now affecting the family court, even though we have new evidence proving the claims aren’t true.

Zeke said:

Hadi said:
Zeke said:
Hadi said:
It feels like some information might be missing here. Why would CPS or the court give you an ultimatum to leave your partner or lose visitation? Courts don’t usually make decisions like that unless they have a serious concern that your partner is a threat to the child.

The court’s dependency orders didn’t mention anything about my partner. In fact, the orders technically allowed me more time with my child, but due to the therapist’s schedule, I couldn’t take full advantage of it. However, the court has now reduced my visitation time. What’s confusing is that the therapist clearly said I’m not a risk to my child, yet the court’s decision remains unchanged.

My partner isn’t even mentioned in the dependency orders, so I’m not sure why the judge keeps pushing this issue. It feels contradictory. Either the judge trusts the therapist’s evaluation, which he himself ordered, or he doesn’t. If he didn’t trust the therapist, I don’t think I would even have supervised visits.

The court seems to be inferring that my partner is a threat because of the sustained false allegations. Even though we have new evidence of parental alienation, the judge acts like the case is closed and settled. It’s frustrating because the claims aren’t true, and I don’t know how to move forward.

Did the judge directly tell you to leave your partner? Did your lawyer go over your case with the judge before the trial? I’m just trying to understand why the judge would care about your partner unless there’s some concern that they could be harmful to your child. Does your partner have any sort of criminal record? Did you or your partner ever use drugs? Courts don’t typically get involved in a parent’s relationships unless there’s a clear danger to the child.

No, the judge didn’t tell me directly to leave my partner. The family court judge mentioned my relationship as a concern, but there’s no official order saying I have to end it. There also haven’t been any pre-trial discussions about it between my lawyer and the judge that I’m aware of.

As for drugs, neither my partner nor I have any history with drugs, and my partner doesn’t have a criminal record. So, there’s no reason for the court to see them as a danger.

The claims were about my partner harming my child, but my child testified that he lied to the police and that there was no abuse. Still, my lawyer failed to bring in key evidence to support my side, leaving me in a tough spot. I think the dependency court’s decision to sustain the allegations is now affecting the family court, even though we have new evidence proving the claims aren’t true.

What exactly were the allegations of harm? Was your partner accused of hitting or yelling at the child? Was there any mention of inappropriate behavior? How old is your child?

Hadi said:

Zeke said:
Hadi said:
Zeke said:
Hadi said:
It feels like some information might be missing here. Why would CPS or the court give you an ultimatum to leave your partner or lose visitation? Courts don’t usually make decisions like that unless they have a serious concern that your partner is a threat to the child.

The court’s dependency orders didn’t mention anything about my partner. In fact, the orders technically allowed me more time with my child, but due to the therapist’s schedule, I couldn’t take full advantage of it. However, the court has now reduced my visitation time. What’s confusing is that the therapist clearly said I’m not a risk to my child, yet the court’s decision remains unchanged.

My partner isn’t even mentioned in the dependency orders, so I’m not sure why the judge keeps pushing this issue. It feels contradictory. Either the judge trusts the therapist’s evaluation, which he himself ordered, or he doesn’t. If he didn’t trust the therapist, I don’t think I would even have supervised visits.

The court seems to be inferring that my partner is a threat because of the sustained false allegations. Even though we have new evidence of parental alienation, the judge acts like the case is closed and settled. It’s frustrating because the claims aren’t true, and I don’t know how to move forward.

Did the judge directly tell you to leave your partner? Did your lawyer go over your case with the judge before the trial? I’m just trying to understand why the judge would care about your partner unless there’s some concern that they could be harmful to your child. Does your partner have any sort of criminal record? Did you or your partner ever use drugs? Courts don’t typically get involved in a parent’s relationships unless there’s a clear danger to the child.

No, the judge didn’t tell me directly to leave my partner. The family court judge mentioned my relationship as a concern, but there’s no official order saying I have to end it. There also haven’t been any pre-trial discussions about it between my lawyer and the judge that I’m aware of.

As for drugs, neither my partner nor I have any history with drugs, and my partner doesn’t have a criminal record. So, there’s no reason for the court to see them as a danger.

The claims were about my partner harming my child, but my child testified that he lied to the police and that there was no abuse. Still, my lawyer failed to bring in key evidence to support my side, leaving me in a tough spot. I think the dependency court’s decision to sustain the allegations is now affecting the family court, even though we have new evidence proving the claims aren’t true.

What exactly were the allegations of harm? Was your partner accused of hitting or yelling at the child? Was there any mention of inappropriate behavior? How old is your child?

The allegations included both physical and sexual abuse. But during the process, my child completely denied any abuse. The professionals who reviewed the case believed my child’s retraction was credible and real. No direct evidence of harm or misconduct was ever found. When the allegations were made, my child was 6. He’s now 8.

I would do exactly what the court says if it means getting your relationship with your child back on track.

Your child comes first, always. It’s an awful situation, but your kid should be your top priority. What does your lawyer say about all of this?

It might not be fair, but at this point, it sounds like you have to choose between your child and your partner. Choose wisely.

Do you have a lawyer? What kind of hearings have already taken place—like emergency custody or adjudication? Do you have a court-ordered plan in place?

Morgan said:
Do you have a lawyer? What kind of hearings have already taken place—like emergency custody or adjudication? Do you have a court-ordered plan in place?

I didn’t have good legal representation during the dependency case. My lawyer didn’t cross-examine key witnesses or present any of my evidence. The only witness who was cross-examined was my child, and even that wasn’t done well. After my lawyer dropped the ball, the case was quickly closed, and I was denied due process.

I appealed the decision and even wrote my own habeas corpus petition, arguing that my lawyer provided ineffective assistance. But the court denied it without much consideration and affirmed the judgment, wrongly assuming my lawyer had a strategy.

Now I’m in family court, trying to show that circumstances have changed, but the judge isn’t addressing my concerns. It feels like I’m not getting a fair chance to resolve things, even with new evidence, like the therapist’s recommendation and proof of parental alienation.

Zeke said:

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

Honestly, you have to choose between your partner and your child. I know someone who didn’t leave their partner, and they lost their child for almost two years. They thought it was unfair, but it wasn’t.

Nevin said:

Zeke said:

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

Honestly, you have to choose between your partner and your child. I know someone who didn’t leave their partner, and they lost their child for almost two years. They thought it was unfair, but it wasn’t.

Well, it would be unfair if the allegations were false, don’t you think?

Nevan said:

Nevin said:
Zeke said:

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

Honestly, you have to choose between your partner and your child. I know someone who didn’t leave their partner, and they lost their child for almost two years. They thought it was unfair, but it wasn’t.

Well, it would be unfair if the allegations were false, don’t you think?

There’s a lot of solid proof, including statements from their own investigators, that show the child’s father was coaching him. This was backed up by communication records and other evidence. But despite all that, the court keeps ignoring the facts.

Zeke said:

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

The court isn’t trying to stop you from having a meaningful relationship with your child. They’re just setting the conditions they think are necessary. Their view may differ from yours, but they have more authority. You need to figure out how to follow what they want while you work through this.

Can your partner move out when your child is around? Or can you? This might only apply when you’re with your child. Are there parenting classes you or your partner could take? Are there other ways to address the court’s concerns?

If you don’t have a lawyer, you should get one. This is a long process, not something that will be resolved quickly. The court had its reasons for making these decisions. If your evidence wasn’t enough, get more.

Yes, courts can make mistakes, but they don’t want to. Things can change with effort and persistence. Don’t give up, but work on improving things for everyone.

Tatum said:

Zeke said:

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

The court isn’t trying to stop you from having a meaningful relationship with your child. They’re just setting the conditions they think are necessary. Their view may differ from yours, but they have more authority. You need to figure out how to follow what they want while you work through this.

Can your partner move out when your child is around? Or can you? This might only apply when you’re with your child. Are there parenting classes you or your partner could take? Are there other ways to address the court’s concerns?

If you don’t have a lawyer, you should get one. This is a long process, not something that will be resolved quickly. The court had its reasons for making these decisions. If your evidence wasn’t enough, get more.

Yes, courts can make mistakes, but they don’t want to. Things can change with effort and persistence. Don’t give up, but work on improving things for everyone.

I appreciate what you’re saying, and I get that the court has authority here. My frustration comes from feeling like the court’s decisions aren’t reflecting the actual situation, especially with the evidence I’ve provided about parental alienation and the changes that have occurred. I’m committed to following the court’s requirements, but I also want to make sure my child’s best interests are being served.

I’ve completed a parenting class, and I’m even certified to teach them now. Housing arrangements during visitation are something I’m willing to consider if it helps.

You’re right that having proper legal representation is critical. I’ve just had bad luck with lawyers so far, which makes me hesitant. I know this is a process and won’t be fixed overnight, but my goal is to create a stable, loving environment for my child, and I won’t give up on that.

Tatum said:

Zeke said:

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

The court isn’t trying to stop you from having a meaningful relationship with your child. They’re just setting the conditions they think are necessary. Their view may differ from yours, but they have more authority. You need to figure out how to follow what they want while you work through this.

Can your partner move out when your child is around? Or can you? This might only apply when you’re with your child. Are there parenting classes you or your partner could take? Are there other ways to address the court’s concerns?

If you don’t have a lawyer, you should get one. This is a long process, not something that will be resolved quickly. The court had its reasons for making these decisions. If your evidence wasn’t enough, get more.

Yes, courts can make mistakes, but they don’t want to. Things can change with effort and persistence. Don’t give up, but work on improving things for everyone.

I completely agree. Here’s another piece of advice: Forget about the courts for a second. Focus on being the best parent you can be with the time you have.

I only get to see my kids 30% of the time because of lies my ex told during our divorce. It’s hard, but I’m still doing everything I can to raise my kids and teach them what they need to know during our time together. I believe I’m a better parent than my ex, and it’s up to me to prove it.

My goal is for my kids to look back when they’re older and say, ‘My dad was great.’ Keep that goal in mind, and you’ll get through this.

Zev said:

Tatum said:
Zeke said:

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

The court isn’t trying to stop you from having a meaningful relationship with your child. They’re just setting the conditions they think are necessary. Their view may differ from yours, but they have more authority. You need to figure out how to follow what they want while you work through this.

Can your partner move out when your child is around? Or can you? This might only apply when you’re with your child. Are there parenting classes you or your partner could take? Are there other ways to address the court’s concerns?

If you don’t have a lawyer, you should get one. This is a long process, not something that will be resolved quickly. The court had its reasons for making these decisions. If your evidence wasn’t enough, get more.

Yes, courts can make mistakes, but they don’t want to. Things can change with effort and persistence. Don’t give up, but work on improving things for everyone.

I completely agree. Here’s another piece of advice: Forget about the courts for a second. Focus on being the best parent you can be with the time you have.

I only get to see my kids 30% of the time because of lies my ex told during our divorce. It’s hard, but I’m still doing everything I can to raise my kids and teach them what they need to know during our time together. I believe I’m a better parent than my ex, and it’s up to me to prove it.

My goal is for my kids to look back when they’re older and say, ‘My dad was great.’ Keep that goal in mind, and you’ll get through this.

That’s very true. I do my best.

Zeke said:

I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.

Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.

I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.

How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?

You need to hire an attorney to file those motions.

In the meantime, follow the court orders exactly. If what you’re saying is accurate, it will take time to undo the current orders, but you may want to consider leaving your partner for now so you don’t lose access to your child while you fight these issues.