Tatum said:
Zeke said:
I’m dealing with a tough situation where the court accepted false claims of abuse against me and my partner, even though my child took back those claims right away. Instead of looking into it properly, Child Protective Services (CPS) said I convinced my child to change his story. I provided a lot of proof showing the allegations were false, but CPS and the court still ignored it.
Right now, I only get limited supervised visits with my child, but it feels like this is all based on false information. To make things worse, the family court won’t even look at the evidence I’ve given them and expects me to act like the allegations are true. They’ve even given me an ultimatum—either leave my partner or lose my visitation rights. This goes completely against what my child’s therapist recommended. The therapist wrote that there was no manipulation and that my relationship with my child is healthy and good for his well-being. The therapist also recommended more unsupervised visitation based on how well our visits have gone.
I feel like I’m stuck in an impossible situation where I’m being forced to admit to something I didn’t do just to keep seeing my child.
How can I challenge the court’s disregard for due process, my therapist’s recommendations, and the evidence I’ve provided? How can I fight back when it seems like the system is determined to keep me from having a real relationship with my child?
The court isn’t trying to stop you from having a meaningful relationship with your child. They’re just setting the conditions they think are necessary. Their view may differ from yours, but they have more authority. You need to figure out how to follow what they want while you work through this.
Can your partner move out when your child is around? Or can you? This might only apply when you’re with your child. Are there parenting classes you or your partner could take? Are there other ways to address the court’s concerns?
If you don’t have a lawyer, you should get one. This is a long process, not something that will be resolved quickly. The court had its reasons for making these decisions. If your evidence wasn’t enough, get more.
Yes, courts can make mistakes, but they don’t want to. Things can change with effort and persistence. Don’t give up, but work on improving things for everyone.
I appreciate what you’re saying, and I get that the court has authority here. My frustration comes from feeling like the court’s decisions aren’t reflecting the actual situation, especially with the evidence I’ve provided about parental alienation and the changes that have occurred. I’m committed to following the court’s requirements, but I also want to make sure my child’s best interests are being served.
I’ve completed a parenting class, and I’m even certified to teach them now. Housing arrangements during visitation are something I’m willing to consider if it helps.
You’re right that having proper legal representation is critical. I’ve just had bad luck with lawyers so far, which makes me hesitant. I know this is a process and won’t be fixed overnight, but my goal is to create a stable, loving environment for my child, and I won’t give up on that.