Hey guys, I’m dealing with a high-conflict ex, and I’m trying to figure out what specific details to include in my divorce decree. I have the basics covered, such as custody arrangements, holidays, and exchange times, but I feel like I might be missing a lot. What are some things you wish you had included? I want to make sure everything is crystal clear to avoid any future issues.
Definitely include first right of refusal. If one parent can’t take care of the kid, they should ask the other parent first.
Ollie said:
Definitely include first right of refusal. If one parent can’t take care of the kid, they should ask the other parent first.
That’s a great point! I didn’t think of that. What if your ex just hands the kid off to someone else?
You should really specify who pays for what, like school fees, extracurricular activities, and medical expenses. It helps avoid confusion later.
Basil said:
You should really specify who pays for what, like school fees, extracurricular activities, and medical expenses. It helps avoid confusion later.
Exactly! I want to avoid any surprises. How did you split those costs?
Adding in rules about communication is key too. Like, how you’ll talk about the kids and handle disputes.
Eli said:
Adding in rules about communication is key too. Like, how you’ll talk about the kids and handle disputes.
For sure! A parenting app for communication could help keep everything organized.
I wish I had included specifics about travel expenses for visitation. Who pays for what can get messy.
Zane said:
I wish I had included specifics about travel expenses for visitation. Who pays for what can get messy.
Right? My ex always made me do all the driving. It was so unfair.
Consider including details about social media too. Like rules for what’s shared about the kids online.
Harlan said:
Consider including details about social media too. Like rules for what’s shared about the kids online.
That’s smart. I wouldn’t want anything embarrassing to pop up later.