I recently reported my boyfriend fraternizing with another service member who’s married. But now I’m having second thoughts. I made the report over the phone, but I haven’t submitted any evidence. What would happen if I wanted to cancel my report or not submit the evidence at all? I don’t want my boyfriend to face consequences, but I do think the other service member should be held accountable… anyone know what would happen in this situation?
Wow, that’s a tough situation. I think even if you cancel your report, the military might still pursue it if they think it’s serious enough. Especially if they have other evidence already. Not sure if you can completely stop it once it’s reported, but maybe you could talk to a lawyer about your options?
I feel you, that’s a tricky spot. I read that once the report is in, they don’t really need your permission to keep investigating. The military just might keep going even if you don’t submit evidence. It’s all up to their chain of command.
I’ve read that if the military thinks the issue is big enough, they’ll still act on it even if you change your mind. Sounds like the other service member might be in more trouble than your boyfriend though…
I get what you mean, it’s hard to want to protect someone but also feel like the other person should face consequences. If you’re still in doubt, maybe ask a military lawyer how to handle it without making things worse for anyone involved?
Honestly, I don’t think you have much control once it’s reported, especially if they can find other evidence. You might just have to trust the military will handle it based on what they find, not just your statement.