My 4-year-old daughter goes to a private school, and she has special needs. The school wants all kids under 5 to rest quietly for 30-45 mins every day, but my daughter can’t stay quiet or still that long. When she acts out, they just tell me to come pick her up early. It’s so frustrating because she’s missing a big part of her school day. I thought schools had to accommodate special needs kids. Anyone else dealt with this?
Yeah, my niece had something similar at her school. They wanted her to rest too, but she couldn’t handle it. The teachers would let her color quietly instead.
Kim said:
Yeah, my niece had something similar at her school. They wanted her to rest too, but she couldn’t handle it. The teachers would let her color quietly instead.
That would be great! I asked if they could just take her for a walk or let her do something quiet, but they’re set on this rest time rule.
Kim said:
Yeah, my niece had something similar at her school. They wanted her to rest too, but she couldn’t handle it. The teachers would let her color quietly instead.
Does the school have a strict policy for this rest time? Sounds a bit rigid if they’re not willing to make changes for her.
In CA, schools do have to give kids under 5 a chance to rest, but forcing you to pick her up daily seems like a stretch. Have you tried talking to someone higher up at the school?
Noor said:
In CA, schools do have to give kids under 5 a chance to rest, but forcing you to pick her up daily seems like a stretch. Have you tried talking to someone higher up at the school?
Yeah, I’ve talked to the administration and her teachers, but they still expect me to pick her up early every day. I feel stuck.
Noor said:
In CA, schools do have to give kids under 5 a chance to rest, but forcing you to pick her up daily seems like a stretch. Have you tried talking to someone higher up at the school?
Maybe try reaching out to an educational advocate? They could help push for better accommodations.
Have they offered anything to help her stay on the mat? My kid’s school gave him noise-canceling headphones when he couldn’t handle quiet time.
Fisher said:
Have they offered anything to help her stay on the mat? My kid’s school gave him noise-canceling headphones when he couldn’t handle quiet time.
They gave her a headset with music, but she still gets really antsy and ends up acting out. It’s tough for her.
Fisher said:
Have they offered anything to help her stay on the mat? My kid’s school gave him noise-canceling headphones when he couldn’t handle quiet time.
Have you tried any calming techniques at home that could help her get used to quiet time?
Fisher said:
Have they offered anything to help her stay on the mat? My kid’s school gave him noise-canceling headphones when he couldn’t handle quiet time.
We’ve tried, but she just doesn’t respond well to staying still for that long. She’s a very active kid.
Private schools can sometimes get away with not providing certain accommodations since they have different regulations. It’s frustrating, though.
Harley said:
Private schools can sometimes get away with not providing certain accommodations since they have different regulations. It’s frustrating, though.
Right? I thought they would be more understanding. It feels like we’re out of options.
Harley said:
Private schools can sometimes get away with not providing certain accommodations since they have different regulations. It’s frustrating, though.
Maybe look into other schools? Some are more flexible with their policies.
I’ve heard of parents getting legal help in similar situations. Maybe worth checking out if they won’t work with you?
Rex said:
I’ve heard of parents getting legal help in similar situations. Maybe worth checking out if they won’t work with you?
I might have to. I really don’t want to go that route, but it’s getting frustrating.
Rex said:
I’ve heard of parents getting legal help in similar situations. Maybe worth checking out if they won’t work with you?
Sometimes just mentioning it can make a difference. Schools don’t like the idea of legal action.