I’m a parent of a TK student, and I’m concerned about some things happening in my child’s classroom. The teacher put up a poster titled ‘We Are Free to Be,’ which includes complex gender identity content. The teacher, who self-identifies as ‘they,’ told the kids there are ‘two of themselves, one is a boy, and one is a girl.’ I know gender identity isn’t part of the TK curriculum, so I’m wondering if this violates any California educational laws or policies. The school said the poster is just decoration to promote a safe and inclusive environment. I’ve since pulled my son out of the school, but I’d like to know if anyone has dealt with something similar or has advice on how to approach this.
That’s a tough situation. Did the school offer any explanation beyond saying it’s decoration?
Vale said:
That’s a tough situation. Did the school offer any explanation beyond saying it’s decoration?
Not really. They just emphasized it’s part of creating an inclusive environment.
Vale said:
That’s a tough situation. Did the school offer any explanation beyond saying it’s decoration?
Seems like they’re avoiding addressing the actual issue. Did you escalate it further?
California has pretty progressive education policies. As long as it’s not part of formal instruction, the teacher might not be violating anything.
Vesper said:
California has pretty progressive education policies. As long as it’s not part of formal instruction, the teacher might not be violating anything.
I see. It’s just frustrating because it felt like overstepping for TK kids.
Vesper said:
California has pretty progressive education policies. As long as it’s not part of formal instruction, the teacher might not be violating anything.
I get that. You might want to check if your district has specific guidelines about classroom materials and discussions.
It’s good you spoke up. Even if it’s not illegal, parents have the right to raise concerns about what’s age-appropriate.
Skye said:
It’s good you spoke up. Even if it’s not illegal, parents have the right to raise concerns about what’s age-appropriate.
Exactly. I just felt this wasn’t the right age for these discussions.
Skye said:
It’s good you spoke up. Even if it’s not illegal, parents have the right to raise concerns about what’s age-appropriate.
You’re not alone. Some schools are introducing these topics earlier, and it’s dividing a lot of parents.
Did other parents feel the same way? Maybe a group approach to the school would be more effective.
Keegan said:
Did other parents feel the same way? Maybe a group approach to the school would be more effective.
Yes, some parents said their kids were confused. We’re considering forming a group to address it.
Keegan said:
Did other parents feel the same way? Maybe a group approach to the school would be more effective.
That could help. Schools often respond better to collective concerns rather than individual complaints.
If you’ve already pulled your child out, are you considering filing a formal complaint with the district?
Cedar said:
If you’ve already pulled your child out, are you considering filing a formal complaint with the district?
I’m thinking about it. I just want to make sure I handle it the right way.
Cedar said:
If you’ve already pulled your child out, are you considering filing a formal complaint with the district?
That makes sense. Maybe consult with an education attorney to explore your options.