Hello, I work for the state of Florida and they recently updated the policy to say males can’t have earrings. My boss failed to update us in time, and I had already gotten my ears pierced. They sent me home today and plan to continue if I don’t remove them. In my eyes, it’s gender discrimination for females to be allowed and males not, as it poses no safety or health concerns. Seems like homophobic higher-ups to me. What should I do? The HR lady is on their side. Should I file a grievance with the central office?
If it’s an at-will state (and Florida is), they can basically do what they want. The gender issue can be tricky. You likely wouldn’t have grounds. Also, no attorney would represent you because you’d probably lose. If you love the job, take them out. If you hate it, find a different job.
@Cale
It’s frustrating because the policy seems unfair, and I feel singled out.
Ren said:
@Cale
It’s frustrating because the policy seems unfair, and I feel singled out.
I understand. It’s tough when policies feel discriminatory. But legally, they have the right to enforce dress codes.
@Cale
I guess I’ll have to comply for now. It’s just hard to accept.
It is legal. Best option is to get out of Florida.
Noel said:
It is legal. Best option is to get out of Florida.
Leaving the state isn’t an option for me right now. I need to find a way to deal with this.
Noel said:
It is legal. Best option is to get out of Florida.
Leaving the state isn’t an option for me right now. I need to find a way to deal with this.
I understand. Maybe look for workplaces with more progressive policies in your area.
Having things like this in a dress code is legal. And policies can be updated at any time.
Lior said:
Having things like this in a dress code is legal. And policies can be updated at any time.
It’s disappointing that they can change policies without notice, but I guess I have to follow them.
They can require you to be clean-shaven and have short hair if they want. It’s all allowed.
NelsonCarter said:
They can require you to be clean-shaven and have short hair if they want. It’s all allowed.
I get that they have the right, but it just feels unfair.
Dress codes don’t need to be gender neutral. Do not take gender neutrality for granted. It does not, in fact, exist. Just don’t wear the earrings at work. Yes, their dress code is thirty years out of date. But no, it’s not illegal.
@jordansmith
He can’t take out the earrings long enough for work without the holes closing up since he just recently got them done. It doesn’t change the fact that the law won’t protect him here.
Foster said:
@jordansmith
He can’t take out the earrings long enough for work without the holes closing up since he just recently got them done. It doesn’t change the fact that the law won’t protect him here.
That’s unfortunate. Maybe wait until the piercings heal and then take them out for work?
@jordansmith
That could be an option. It’s just a tough situation.
Foster said:
@jordansmith
That could be an option. It’s just a tough situation.
I’ll consider that. I just wish there was a better solution.
Dress codes and policies can change with little or no notice. It’s also very legal to have different dress codes for men and women.
Remy said:
Dress codes and policies can change with little or no notice. It’s also very legal to have different dress codes for men and women.
I understand that policies can change, but it feels discriminatory.
@Ren
I get that. It’s important to stay informed about your workplace policies and your rights.