Ex Boyfriend is telling me he’s gonna take my child... what can I do?

I tested positive for pregnancy last night and sent it to him. Now he’s threatening to take my child before they’re even born. He’s previously said he might beat me, and I don’t want my child living with him. He lives with his parents and has no bills, so he seems financially stable. I’m just filled with panic and want to protect myself and my unborn child. What should I do?

He is likely to get visitation or shared custody if he pursues it. If you’re considering moving out of state, now would be the time to do it. That way, any custody case would be based where you legally reside.

Move if you can. You have the right to do what you want while pregnant, and he won’t be able to make you move back. Keep your plans to yourself.

Document everything he says. Don’t put his name on the birth certificate. It might deter him from pursuing it later.

You’re free to live your life however you choose until he’s legally established as the father after the birth. Consult with family law attorneys soon for custody and support.

Don’t stress too much. Bad dads often make threats they can’t back up. Look into your state’s laws about paternity and custody. If you’re moving, now is the time.