Hi all, I’m 29 and 19 weeks pregnant. My ex-fiancé (32M) doesn’t want to go through with adoption, but I do. We broke off our engagement because he’s controlling and manipulative. I want my baby to grow up in a healthy environment, and I’m worried about the kind of father he would be. I’ve got some evidence of his behavior, but I’m not sure it’s enough to prove he’s unfit. I’m scared for my baby’s future. Any advice?
You should definitely talk to an adoption agency. They might help facilitate a conversation with him, but be cautious—they can be predatory.
Honestly, it sounds like your best option is to consult a lawyer. He doesn’t have to consent to adoption, which complicates things.
If you end up having the baby, there are safe haven laws, but they come with their own risks if he finds out.
You might want to consider moving away from him entirely. It sounds like a drastic step, but it could protect you and your baby.
It’s a tough situation. Remember that his rights matter too, but your baby’s safety comes first. Find a good lawyer!