I think I’ve been blocked from going on school field trips with my daughter because another mom complained about me. We’ve had disagreements before, and she’s pretty influential since she’s a lawyer. Lately, I’m not allowed on any trips even though I’m the first to volunteer, but she gets to go. Is this even allowed?
That sounds so frustrating! Have you tried talking to the school about it?
Kaius said:
That sounds so frustrating! Have you tried talking to the school about it?
Yeah, I’ve asked, but they just say other chaperones offered first. I know I was first, though!
Kaius said:
That sounds so frustrating! Have you tried talking to the school about it?
Maybe it’s just them trying to keep the peace? Some schools avoid confrontation this way.
Could it be because of school policy? Sometimes they have weird criteria for picking chaperones.
Riley said:
Could it be because of school policy? Sometimes they have weird criteria for picking chaperones.
Possibly, but I think this mom’s influence plays a part. They never had a problem with me going before.
Riley said:
Could it be because of school policy? Sometimes they have weird criteria for picking chaperones.
Makes sense. Some parents do have pull if they’re connected with the school.
It’s petty if she’s using her position to exclude you. You could try going higher up, like the school board?
Vesper said:
It’s petty if she’s using her position to exclude you. You could try going higher up, like the school board?
I’m considering it. I just don’t want to make it into a huge deal unless I have to.
Vesper said:
It’s petty if she’s using her position to exclude you. You could try going higher up, like the school board?
Understandable. Maybe keep it focused on wanting to be involved with your child, not about the other mom.
Have you asked if there’s a reason why they’re not picking you? Sometimes just directly asking makes them give a more honest answer.
Valen said:
Have you asked if there’s a reason why they’re not picking you? Sometimes just directly asking makes them give a more honest answer.
I’ve tried, but they keep it vague. Just feels like they’re not telling the full story.
Valen said:
Have you asked if there’s a reason why they’re not picking you? Sometimes just directly asking makes them give a more honest answer.
Yeah, if they’re dodging the question, that’s suspicious. Maybe bring it up at the next parent meeting?
If this mom has a lot of influence, the school might be trying to avoid issues. Doesn’t make it fair, though.
Uma said:
If this mom has a lot of influence, the school might be trying to avoid issues. Doesn’t make it fair, though.
Exactly, it feels like they’re just letting her control who gets to participate.
Uma said:
If this mom has a lot of influence, the school might be trying to avoid issues. Doesn’t make it fair, though.
They’re definitely letting her get away with it if that’s the case. Hope it gets sorted out for you!