@Gale
Your comment seems to revel in his pain. Who is going to roommate with a middle-aged person who has visitation with his kids? But yeah, that’s life, right? The guy made a mistake, so he deserves to have his family almost taken from him.
Sorry, you called them tricks. I used a different word.
@Gray
You seem bitter and feel the need to criticize people, don’t you?
I hope you feel better tonight, get some much-needed rest and come back tomorrow with a clearer mind. Have a good night.
Gale said:
@Gray
You seem bitter and feel the need to criticize people, don’t you?
I hope you feel better tonight, get some much-needed rest and come back tomorrow with a clearer mind. Have a good night.
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In my state, back support/current support can be up to 50% of your gross income. I’m not sure about spousal support since it didn’t apply to us. They take child support very seriously. Your options are to be broke or find a higher-paying job while you pay off your back support. Then, current support could be modified, but if you earn more, the kids get more. That makes sense.
Sounds like you had a good job but left thinking you wouldn’t have to pay much, and it backfired. How do you expect to have more time with the kids when you live so far away? The kids have to go to school, and weekend visits aren’t really feasible since you have to drive back unless you pay to stay there.
@Reilly
This is exactly what it sounds like. It seems like he pulled the same tricks my ex did, and there’s much more to the story.
It seems like the judge ordered child support based on your potential income or what you made before your current job, and you have to pay back support you didn’t pay. It sounds like you need to find a new job, get a second job, or find someone to support you if you don’t already have that.
Your post was removed for being critical of someone’s actions or being overly harsh in an unnecessary way.
Morality: No one cares about your opinion on someone else’s actions. Comments about someone being a bad person for their choices aren’t needed here.
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Where did he say that?
Where did he say that?
Where did he say that?
He’s just asking for legal advice. Missing his kids isn’t part of the legal issue. You’re assuming he doesn’t care about his kids because he wants to lower spousal support. Your thoughts don’t matter.
He’s not trying to avoid his responsibilities; he wants to lower his spousal support, not his child support.
He’s not trying to avoid his responsibilities; he wants to lower his spousal support, not his child support.
More specifically, he’s asking for lower spousal support and more custody, which could lower his overall support obligations. Maybe I’m wrong.
I really don’t know what to say about this. I said I could be wrong. That’s the impression I got, and I think that’s the point of this discussion—different views. If I get more context, I’m willing to adjust my first impression, but OP doesn’t seem to be giving any.
@Rin
Why does wanting to see your kids more make you a bad person? What are his kids doing in California when they divorced in New Mexico?
Nori said:
@Rin
Why does wanting to see your kids more make you a bad person? What are his kids doing in California when they divorced in New Mexico?
He never said he wanted to see his kids more. That’s my point. He says he wants more custody. He gives a lot of financial details, but at no point does he say ‘I want to see my kids more.’
A custodial parent can’t just take kids out of state without consent if he has parental rights, especially in a divorce case. So he agreed to her taking the kids to California and making that their home while he moved to Texas.
@Rin
That’s the first advice for women thinking about divorce in this forum: take the kids and set up residency somewhere else to make it hard for your ex.