Hey everyone. My ex-husband has been making our divorce process in Texas a nightmare. This past year, he’s filed several lawsuits against me, and he’s lost them all. Now, I want to serve him a writ of execution to collect my attorney’s fees (for both divorce and civil cases). He’s been ordered to pay my divorce attorney fees since July, but hasn’t paid a cent, so I doubt he’ll cover the civil attorney fees either. On top of that, I need my divorce attorney to file a motion to enforce our divorce decree because he liquidated his 401K and transferred the RSUs awarded to me over to his new wife.
Problem is, I’m not sure where he’s living right now. I think he’s in California, but it might be a fake address tied to a car lease I co-signed for him. Is it possible to call the leasing company to verify his address? Would I need to hire a private investigator? We’re not on speaking terms, so asking him directly is not an option.
I’m not a lawyer, but my ex still uses a joint account we set up, and he’s been sneaking money into it to hide from his current wife. My lawyer advised me to stay quiet because if I ever need to, I can still access the account.
In your case, maybe check any shared accounts you have. If your ex still uses one, the bank could set up an online portal where you can keep an eye on account info, including his address if he has it listed there. Also, try your credit report. Sometimes joint accounts may have his addresses on file, which might show up on your report.
Before you spend money on a PI, try an online search. If you know the new wife’s name, it could be surprisingly simple to track them down. I once found someone’s full name and address just from a nickname and their Snapchat handle, so I could get them a wellness check.
@Tal
I checked the IP in the last email from his new wife (she sent a lawsuit dismissal notice). It pointed to Kansas, but her case was filed in Washington. We both work in cybersecurity, so I think he’s using a VPN. All I have now is an apartment address he gave the car leasing company, which I might need a subpoena to confirm.
@Niko
If your name’s on the car loan, ask the leasing company to set up an account login for you. That way, you might get access to address info for the vehicle. Depending on the lender, you might even see the billing address.
@Niko
Does he or his new wife have social media? Friends of theirs might tag them with location info. Also, if the car you co-signed has an app, check if it shows its location. Or you could try the car’s VIN to look up registration details.
@Andi
He’s got Twitter, no Facebook, and a private Instagram. I can see the mailing address he’s listed online, but I’m not sure how to request registration details since I’m in Texas, and he’s in California.
File everything you can. File contempt for not paying court-ordered fees, for liquidating the 401K, for every single violation. Even if you never see a dollar, stacking up enough judgments might lead to a warrant. He essentially stole from you.
Not a lawyer, just advice. You have lawyers on each of these issues, have you discussed this with them?
You might need a motion for discovery to get his address, served on his last known address. This could help with filing a contempt motion if he doesn’t comply, but your lawyers will know what’s best based on your situation.
@Holland
My attorneys are unfortunately slow to respond. I did tell them he’s likely out of state and that he’s no longer at the address he had on file.
Niko said: @Holland
My attorneys are unfortunately slow to respond. I did tell them he’s likely out of state and that he’s no longer at the address he had on file.
Do you have the VIN or license plate for the car? It should be registered somewhere, and since you co-signed, the leasing company may help without extra discovery fees. They probably require insurance on it, too.