How might a past charge impact custody battles?

My boyfriend was charged with CSC 2nd degree and placed on tier III back in 2009. The girl lied and had three different stories, but the judge said he was setting an example for the county. He’s been compliant, no restrictions about being around minors, etc. Now my ex-husband is using it against me in our custody battle, trying to get 50/50 parenting to lower his child support obligations. Do you think the judge will side with him?

Ugh, that’s a tough situation. I’m not sure, but if your boyfriend’s been compliant and there are no restrictions, it could help. But judges sometimes get funny about stuff like this…

Vero said:
Ugh, that’s a tough situation. I’m not sure, but if your boyfriend’s been compliant and there are no restrictions, it could help. But judges sometimes get funny about stuff like this…

Yeah, it’s so frustrating. He’s been living with me for over a year now with my kids. We’re in Michigan, if that helps?

@Kim
Michigan? Oh, gotcha. That could play a role too, depending on local laws. But if he’s been around your kids for that long without any issues, it might sway the judge.

Didn’t your ex-husband have any issues with his own parenting? If he has joint custody, wouldn’t that help your case?

Aki said:
Didn’t your ex-husband have any issues with his own parenting? If he has joint custody, wouldn’t that help your case?

Yeah, he has joint custody of his own kids, but he’s always trying to get more time to reduce child support. It’s been a constant battle.

@Kim
Wow, what a mess. If you have proof he’s just trying to lower payments, like those drunk texts, that could be really useful in court.

Honestly, the fact that your ex isn’t even showing up for his scheduled visits could make a big difference. A judge will see that as you being the more responsible parent.

Case said:
Honestly, the fact that your ex isn’t even showing up for his scheduled visits could make a big difference. A judge will see that as you being the more responsible parent.

Yeah, he hasn’t taken them once, even though the court says he gets them every Wednesday. Makes me so mad .

@Kim
That’s a huge point. It shows you’ve been the consistent one. If he’s not showing up, the judge will likely side with you.

Have you thought about talking to a family lawyer? They might be able to help you get a more solid case against your ex. It sounds like you’ve been more than fair already.

Avery said:
Have you thought about talking to a family lawyer? They might be able to help you get a more solid case against your ex. It sounds like you’ve been more than fair already.

I’ve been in touch with one. Just waiting to see what they say, but it’s good to know I’ve got support from other people too.

Good luck with everything! Honestly, from what you’ve said, it seems like you’ve got a solid case. Hopefully the judge sees that .

Wynter said:
Good luck with everything! Honestly, from what you’ve said, it seems like you’ve got a solid case. Hopefully the judge sees that!

Thanks, I really hope so. It’s been so stressful dealing with all this.