Hello peeps …
I’m in a really tough spot and could use some advice. My ex and I were together for about two years, and I was with her for the first three months of her pregnancy before we broke up. Things were rocky between us, and she decided to leave the state to finish her pregnancy on her own. I wasn’t okay with that, especially since I wanted to be involved in our baby’s life. After I left, she blocked me on everything.
A few months later, I tried reaching out again, and when I finally spoke to her, she told me, “I want you to think the baby’s not yours.” I was really worried about what she was planning. After no contact for six months, she sent me a photo of the baby while she was in the hospital, saying, “Just so you can’t say I didn’t show you him.” I thought this meant she was going to keep the baby, and I was prepared to fight for custody.
I asked for a paternity test, but she brushed me off, saying I’d have to figure it out myself. Then, out of nowhere, she tells me she adopted him because I took too long to respond to her photo. I was devastated. I never thought she’d go through with an adoption without telling me.
After some digging, I found out she went to Utah to give birth and did an open adoption through Love and Light Adoptions. She never even lived there, and she finalized the adoption before I could file for paternity or get any court documents in place. She won’t give me any info about the adoptive family or my son’s name.
I’ve contacted several law groups and attorneys but haven’t had much luck. I’m worried I’ve lost my son, but I’m determined not to give up. Since he’s only two months old, I feel like I need to act fast. I’m looking for attorneys who can help me with getting a paternity test and eventually full custody through Utah courts.
I know I should’ve done things differently, but I’m past that now. I’m just looking for advice on what steps I can take moving forward.