I need some advice about a situation I’m dealing with. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost two years now, and my ex just doesn’t like her. We’ve had a lot of fights about it, and I waited over a year to introduce them because I wanted to avoid any drama in my son’s life.
Recently, things escalated, and my ex and my girlfriend got into a pretty nasty argument over Facebook Messenger. Now my ex is saying that my son is never allowed to be around her again.
We were never married and have never been to court regarding custody or anything like that. Is there anything I can do beyond just acknowledging paternity to prevent her from dictating what I do and who I bring around my son?
For crying out loud, just go to court and get a custody order! You’re an equal parent with the same rights to your kid unless a judge says otherwise. No one can tell you who you can have around your child when they’re with you…
You’re gonna have to fight for him. Make sure he understands why you won’t be seeing him for a bit, because once you start this process, she’s gonna try to pull him away. My dad was my hero until he didn’t fight for me, and it was heartbreaking. You’re still his hero, so teach him how to fight for what’s right.
You need to file a custody case and make everything legal. Parenting schedule, child support, etc. Son’s mother doesn’t get a say in who you have your kid around unless there is legitimate reason.
First, get a paternity test. Second be prepared to pay child support, Third she has no control over your girlfriend being around your child unless she can prove she’s a danger to your child.
Forget about your girlfriend being around your son for a sec; have you even legally established paternity? Did you not sign the paternity form at his birth to get on the birth certificate?
You need to handle that first and set up legal custody and support agreements.
Your child’s mother has no say in who you socialize with or live with—none at all. Get that visitation court-ordered along with the child support. Ask the judge for a parenting app to communicate through; that way, you’ll have proof that she’s trying to control you, which is totally inappropriate and illegal. If she’s texting you about this stuff now, make sure to save those messages because they’re legally admissible in court.