I’ve got a situation with my ex regarding unpaid medical bills for our son. In 2022, I found out there were about $550 in unpaid bills because my ex wasn’t making payments. I ended up paying those bills to avoid collections and told my ex she owed me half. Now, she refuses to pay, claiming the bills are in her new husband’s name and that it was illegal for me to pay them. I know I can’t reduce child support for this, but can I withhold future medical requests until she pays me back? Can I also withhold contributions for other expenses like education or extracurricular activities to offset what she owes?
You should keep detailed records and communicate everything in writing. When she requests future reimbursements, remind her of the amount she owes you. Put the burden on her to go to court if she wants to contest it.
I like how you explained the percentages. I think I’ll go this route. Thanks!
If you want to be fair, consider offsetting the payments over time instead of withholding everything at once. This way, the kids won’t be affected financially.
Child support shouldn’t be used as an offset. But for medical expenses and other fees, it might be possible to offset them. It’s safer to handle things carefully.
I appreciate the advice. I want to handle this without stirring up too much trouble for the kids, especially with the holidays coming up.
I’m in a similar situation, and I document everything clearly. I agree; it’s unlikely she’ll go back to court for a smaller amount.