I recorded a conversation where my husband was yelling at me, putting me down, and calling me mentally ill. I stayed calm and kept asking him not to say these things in front of our daughter. He then told her that I neglect her and that I don’t care about her. I have proof of him saying this on the recording.
I’m the primary parent and handle almost all of the care for our daughter. I get her ready for school, pack her lunch, take her to the bus, pick her up, and spend time with her every day before he even gets home from work. I also make dinner and handle all domestic tasks like cleaning her room and doing her laundry. On weekends, he takes her out, and I’ve never interfered with that, but now he’s telling her that I don’t care for her because he handles the weekends. None of this makes sense, and it feels like he’s trying to manipulate her against me.
I’m planning to file for divorce in a few weeks and ask for full custody. He has a history of addiction and we’ve been to court for domestic violence before. I’m just trying to understand how the recordings will hold up in family court and how they might impact custody.
I’ve already hired an attorney, but I’m looking for personal stories or advice from others who’ve been through something similar.
NAL - my ex used to make similar claims to our child. I documented everything, and eventually, his visitations were reduced and eventually terminated. The judge took the emotional manipulation seriously, especially after our child began therapy. I encourage you to keep gathering evidence and stay patient.
Please reach out to a domestic violence shelter. Even if you don’t need a place to stay, they can offer resources and help you navigate your situation.
CarolynCook said:
Please reach out to a domestic violence shelter. Even if you don’t need a place to stay, they can offer resources and help you navigate your situation.
Yes, they can help transcribe the recordings for court.
What your husband is doing is manipulative and harmful, especially since your daughter is only six. His comments could be viewed as emotional manipulation or parental alienation, both of which are taken seriously in family court. You have solid evidence, especially since you’re the primary caregiver. Keep documenting everything, and this recording could be very useful in showing that he’s trying to undermine your relationship with your daughter.
Floyd said:
What your husband is doing is manipulative and harmful, especially since your daughter is only six. His comments could be viewed as emotional manipulation or parental alienation, both of which are taken seriously in family court. You have solid evidence, especially since you’re the primary caregiver. Keep documenting everything, and this recording could be very useful in showing that he’s trying to undermine your relationship with your daughter.
What he’s doing is classic parental alienation. Courts typically frown on that behavior, especially when it’s directed at a child so young. The emotional damage could be long-lasting. Judges don’t take kindly to parents using their children as weapons against the other parent.
I went through something similar. My ex would say awful things about me to our kids. The court gave him multiple chances, but when he kept trying to alienate them from me, he eventually lost custody. I documented everything, which helped a lot. Keep doing that, and stay strong—it may take time, but the court won’t ignore his behavior forever.
Blaire said:
I went through something similar. My ex would say awful things about me to our kids. The court gave him multiple chances, but when he kept trying to alienate them from me, he eventually lost custody. I documented everything, which helped a lot. Keep doing that, and stay strong—it may take time, but the court won’t ignore his behavior forever.
It happens almost daily. I try to document it, but a lot of it happens in the moment. I’ve been thinking about getting cameras in the house to help record more of this.
Blaire said:
I went through something similar. My ex would say awful things about me to our kids. The court gave him multiple chances, but when he kept trying to alienate them from me, he eventually lost custody. I documented everything, which helped a lot. Keep doing that, and stay strong—it may take time, but the court won’t ignore his behavior forever.
It happens almost daily. I try to document it, but a lot of it happens in the moment. I’ve been thinking about getting cameras in the house to help record more of this.
That’s a good idea, but just be aware that if he realizes you’re documenting his behavior, he may try to manipulate the situation even further. Keep your support network strong and prepare for a potential escalation once he knows you’ve filed for divorce.
Rin said: Blaire said:
I went through something similar. My ex would say awful things about me to our kids. The court gave him multiple chances, but when he kept trying to alienate them from me, he eventually lost custody. I documented everything, which helped a lot. Keep doing that, and stay strong—it may take time, but the court won’t ignore his behavior forever.
It happens almost daily. I try to document it, but a lot of it happens in the moment. I’ve been thinking about getting cameras in the house to help record more of this.
That’s a good idea, but just be aware that if he realizes you’re documenting his behavior, he may try to manipulate the situation even further. Keep your support network strong and prepare for a potential escalation once he knows you’ve filed for divorce.
I’m ready for it. I’ve been working with a therapist who’s been encouraging me to leave, and my family is on board as well. I’m documenting everything now for my safety.
Blaire said: Rin said: Blaire said:
I went through something similar. My ex would say awful things about me to our kids. The court gave him multiple chances, but when he kept trying to alienate them from me, he eventually lost custody. I documented everything, which helped a lot. Keep doing that, and stay strong—it may take time, but the court won’t ignore his behavior forever.
It happens almost daily. I try to document it, but a lot of it happens in the moment. I’ve been thinking about getting cameras in the house to help record more of this.
That’s a good idea, but just be aware that if he realizes you’re documenting his behavior, he may try to manipulate the situation even further. Keep your support network strong and prepare for a potential escalation once he knows you’ve filed for divorce.
I’m ready for it. I’ve been working with a therapist who’s been encouraging me to leave, and my family is on board as well. I’m documenting everything now for my safety.
Make sure to back up all your evidence in multiple places. Send copies to trusted family or store it securely.
Blaire said: Rin said: Blaire said:
I went through something similar. My ex would say awful things about me to our kids. The court gave him multiple chances, but when he kept trying to alienate them from me, he eventually lost custody. I documented everything, which helped a lot. Keep doing that, and stay strong—it may take time, but the court won’t ignore his behavior forever.
It happens almost daily. I try to document it, but a lot of it happens in the moment. I’ve been thinking about getting cameras in the house to help record more of this.
That’s a good idea, but just be aware that if he realizes you’re documenting his behavior, he may try to manipulate the situation even further. Keep your support network strong and prepare for a potential escalation once he knows you’ve filed for divorce.
I’m ready for it. I’ve been working with a therapist who’s been encouraging me to leave, and my family is on board as well. I’m documenting everything now for my safety.
Be prepared for him to push back with claims of his own. If he orders a mental health evaluation, the court will take it seriously. Be ready to address that if it happens.
Rin said:
I recorded a conversation where my husband was yelling at me, putting me down, and calling me mentally ill. I stayed calm and kept asking him not to say these things in front of our daughter. He then told her that I neglect her and that I don’t care about her. I have proof of him saying this on the recording.
I’m the primary parent and handle almost all of the care for our daughter. I get her ready for school, pack her lunch, take her to the bus, pick her up, and spend time with her every day before he even gets home from work. I also make dinner and handle all domestic tasks like cleaning her room and doing her laundry. On weekends, he takes her out, and I’ve never interfered with that, but now he’s telling her that I don’t care for her because he handles the weekends. None of this makes sense, and it feels like he’s trying to manipulate her against me.
I’m planning to file for divorce in a few weeks and ask for full custody. He has a history of addiction and we’ve been to court for domestic violence before. I’m just trying to understand how the recordings will hold up in family court and how they might impact custody.
I’ve already hired an attorney, but I’m looking for personal stories or advice from others who’ve been through something similar.
If you can afford it, consider getting covert cameras to capture his interactions with your daughter. He’s likely to become more cautious if he knows about any obvious cameras.
Rin said:
I recorded a conversation where my husband was yelling at me, putting me down, and calling me mentally ill. I stayed calm and kept asking him not to say these things in front of our daughter. He then told her that I neglect her and that I don’t care about her. I have proof of him saying this on the recording.
I’m the primary parent and handle almost all of the care for our daughter. I get her ready for school, pack her lunch, take her to the bus, pick her up, and spend time with her every day before he even gets home from work. I also make dinner and handle all domestic tasks like cleaning her room and doing her laundry. On weekends, he takes her out, and I’ve never interfered with that, but now he’s telling her that I don’t care for her because he handles the weekends. None of this makes sense, and it feels like he’s trying to manipulate her against me.
I’m planning to file for divorce in a few weeks and ask for full custody. He has a history of addiction and we’ve been to court for domestic violence before. I’m just trying to understand how the recordings will hold up in family court and how they might impact custody.
I’ve already hired an attorney, but I’m looking for personal stories or advice from others who’ve been through something similar.
If you can afford it, consider getting covert cameras to capture his interactions with your daughter. He’s likely to become more cautious if he knows about any obvious cameras.
Pax said: Rin said:
I recorded a conversation where my husband was yelling at me, putting me down, and calling me mentally ill. I stayed calm and kept asking him not to say these things in front of our daughter. He then told her that I neglect her and that I don’t care about her. I have proof of him saying this on the recording.
I’m the primary parent and handle almost all of the care for our daughter. I get her ready for school, pack her lunch, take her to the bus, pick her up, and spend time with her every day before he even gets home from work. I also make dinner and handle all domestic tasks like cleaning her room and doing her laundry. On weekends, he takes her out, and I’ve never interfered with that, but now he’s telling her that I don’t care for her because he handles the weekends. None of this makes sense, and it feels like he’s trying to manipulate her against me.
I’m planning to file for divorce in a few weeks and ask for full custody. He has a history of addiction and we’ve been to court for domestic violence before. I’m just trying to understand how the recordings will hold up in family court and how they might impact custody.
I’ve already hired an attorney, but I’m looking for personal stories or advice from others who’ve been through something similar.
If you can afford it, consider getting covert cameras to capture his interactions with your daughter. He’s likely to become more cautious if he knows about any obvious cameras.
I will look into this. Thanks for the suggestion.
Make sure to keep a journal with dates and details of everything he says or does.
Pax said: Rin said:
I recorded a conversation where my husband was yelling at me, putting me down, and calling me mentally ill. I stayed calm and kept asking him not to say these things in front of our daughter. He then told her that I neglect her and that I don’t care about her. I have proof of him saying this on the recording.
I’m the primary parent and handle almost all of the care for our daughter. I get her ready for school, pack her lunch, take her to the bus, pick her up, and spend time with her every day before he even gets home from work. I also make dinner and handle all domestic tasks like cleaning her room and doing her laundry. On weekends, he takes her out, and I’ve never interfered with that, but now he’s telling her that I don’t care for her because he handles the weekends. None of this makes sense, and it feels like he’s trying to manipulate her against me.
I’m planning to file for divorce in a few weeks and ask for full custody. He has a history of addiction and we’ve been to court for domestic violence before. I’m just trying to understand how the recordings will hold up in family court and how they might impact custody.
I’ve already hired an attorney, but I’m looking for personal stories or advice from others who’ve been through something similar.
If you can afford it, consider getting covert cameras to capture his interactions with your daughter. He’s likely to become more cautious if he knows about any obvious cameras.
I will look into this. Thanks for the suggestion.
Search for ‘nanny cam’ options—they’re usually discreet and easy to use.
Rin said:
I recorded a conversation where my husband was yelling at me, putting me down, and calling me mentally ill. I stayed calm and kept asking him not to say these things in front of our daughter. He then told her that I neglect her and that I don’t care about her. I have proof of him saying this on the recording.
I’m the primary parent and handle almost all of the care for our daughter. I get her ready for school, pack her lunch, take her to the bus, pick her up, and spend time with her every day before he even gets home from work. I also make dinner and handle all domestic tasks like cleaning her room and doing her laundry. On weekends, he takes her out, and I’ve never interfered with that, but now he’s telling her that I don’t care for her because he handles the weekends. None of this makes sense, and it feels like he’s trying to manipulate her against me.
I’m planning to file for divorce in a few weeks and ask for full custody. He has a history of addiction and we’ve been to court for domestic violence before. I’m just trying to understand how the recordings will hold up in family court and how they might impact custody.
I’ve already hired an attorney, but I’m looking for personal stories or advice from others who’ve been through something similar.
This is parental alienation and psychological abuse. Get in touch with domestic violence organizations. They can provide resources to help prove his behavior in court and protect your daughter. I went through something similar and my child is still dealing with the trauma from it. Act now to protect her.
Rin said:
I recorded a conversation where my husband was yelling at me, putting me down, and calling me mentally ill. I stayed calm and kept asking him not to say these things in front of our daughter. He then told her that I neglect her and that I don’t care about her. I have proof of him saying this on the recording.
I’m the primary parent and handle almost all of the care for our daughter. I get her ready for school, pack her lunch, take her to the bus, pick her up, and spend time with her every day before he even gets home from work. I also make dinner and handle all domestic tasks like cleaning her room and doing her laundry. On weekends, he takes her out, and I’ve never interfered with that, but now he’s telling her that I don’t care for her because he handles the weekends. None of this makes sense, and it feels like he’s trying to manipulate her against me.
I’m planning to file for divorce in a few weeks and ask for full custody. He has a history of addiction and we’ve been to court for domestic violence before. I’m just trying to understand how the recordings will hold up in family court and how they might impact custody.
I’ve already hired an attorney, but I’m looking for personal stories or advice from others who’ve been through something similar.
You should try to limit leaving your daughter alone with him. If he’s manipulating her, it’s best to avoid situations where she’s vulnerable to his influence. Get an attorney involved right away.
Rin said:
I recorded a conversation where my husband was yelling at me, putting me down, and calling me mentally ill. I stayed calm and kept asking him not to say these things in front of our daughter. He then told her that I neglect her and that I don’t care about her. I have proof of him saying this on the recording.
I’m the primary parent and handle almost all of the care for our daughter. I get her ready for school, pack her lunch, take her to the bus, pick her up, and spend time with her every day before he even gets home from work. I also make dinner and handle all domestic tasks like cleaning her room and doing her laundry. On weekends, he takes her out, and I’ve never interfered with that, but now he’s telling her that I don’t care for her because he handles the weekends. None of this makes sense, and it feels like he’s trying to manipulate her against me.
I’m planning to file for divorce in a few weeks and ask for full custody. He has a history of addiction and we’ve been to court for domestic violence before. I’m just trying to understand how the recordings will hold up in family court and how they might impact custody.
I’ve already hired an attorney, but I’m looking for personal stories or advice from others who’ve been through something similar.
It’s unfortunate that you didn’t leave when he was violent before, but now you need to make sure you’re prepared to leave safely. Gather all your evidence and make sure you’re ready to file for divorce.